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Shepherding and Social Media |
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By Ted Cunningham
Bill Rogers is a retired pastor in our congregation who has faithfully served us as an elder for many years. He's a mentor I love and respect deeply. We kid each other often about the differences between ministry today and fifty years ago. Most of his early sermons are lost forever, but mine stick around to haunt me digitally until Jesus returns. Bill's pastorate didn't include the internet or mobile devices. Mine takes into regular account the effects of social media on the mental, emotional, relational, and spiritual well-being of our congregation.
The internet changed everything. I'll admit some of the changes were beneficial, but others have had a negative impact. Social media outlets like Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram do have the potential to hurt your family and damage your reputation. Caution is advisable when posting pictures and thoughts online. Everything you say and do is repeatable, shareable, and re-tweetable. Even a joke can backfire and harm your children and friendships. We all need to guard our online presence and our homes from temptation.
Social media can also keep us connected longer than we need to be. This takes a toll on our health. People don't come home from work anymore and unplug. Instead, we surf the web late into the night. And when we're constantly linked to others, it's virtually impossible to experience true solitude. The constant bombardment of information decreases empathy and drains us emotionally.
Social media can also increase the temptation to sin. Spouses are at risk of connecting with old boyfriends or girlfriends and potentially destroying their marriages. Temptations of this kind show up frequently in our counseling sessions. A spouse posts a comment seeking validation for a feeling, and next thing you know there's a private message from someone who starts flirting. Song of Songs 2:15 says, "Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom." Social media is a little fox that with a little feeding becomes a big predator. Temptation is not sin, so catch it early, and do something about it before you sin.
Proverbs 2:11 tells us, "Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you." The definition of discretion is "behaving or speaking in such a way as to avoid causing offense or revealing private information." You don't have to be online long to see that many people don't use discretion when interacting with others or sharing personal information.
- I won't seek validation for my feelings through likes, comments, replies or re-tweets.
- I will only post that which is encouraging and edifying.
- I refuse to vent or speak negatively about anyone or anything.
- I will take personal responsibility by removing any posts that lead to negative comments. If it incites criticism towards friends, spouse, parents, or co-workers, I will delete it.
- I will avoid passive-aggressive posting. For example, I won't post Bible verses pointing to the actions or words of another.
- I won't post seductive pictures and "selfies" to "put myself out there."
- If our marriage is in crisis, as we pray and work towards reconciliation, we will suspend all use of social media for the sake of our children, family, and friends.
- If I question a post, I will ask a mature friend to review it before I post.
- I won't stalk the behavior of another via social media.
- I won't create false accounts to manipulate or deceive someone else.
- I will share all passwords with my spouse or another family member.
- Above all else, I will strive to use social media in a way that honors God, others, and my family, regardless of my feelings.
- If I can't use social media in an honoring way, I commit to deleting my account.
Use wisdom when online. You may feel safe and protected in a room with just a computer, but the internet can be a powerful tool for good or evil. Protect yourself and those to whom you minister with every keystroke.
As you consider these facts and minister to the fatigue that social media creates for many in your congregation, don't forget about your own use of the internet. When you go home, let your house be the place where you disconnect from the world and the daily grind. Limit your personal social media usage. Surfing Facebook or Twitter keeps you connected physically, relationally, and emotionally to friends, work, and responsibilities. This, in turn, has the potential to wear you down. So guard your online activity, and in the process you will guard your soul. |
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 A Most Famous Mis-Quote ...
It had been misattributed by many, including John F. Kennedy; even Bartlett's Familiar Quotations got it wrong. Most of us have done the same. If asked who said the following, most think we know the right answer: "The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing."
We know it was the great Irish statesman Edmund Burke who said it. Except he didn't. And it has become one of the most widespread misattributions in books and websites providing inspiring quotes.
Simply put, no scholar has been able to trace it to Burke. The closest anyone can find is an April 1770 Parliament speech titled 'Thoughts on the Cause of the Present Discontents: "When bad men combine, the good must associate; else they will fall, one by one ..."
The earliest source of this famous statement is the Reverend Charles K. Aked, in a 1916 sermon on the evils of alcohol as reported in the San Jose Mercury Herald. Reverend Aked said,
"It has been said that for evil men to accomplish their purposes, it is only necessary that good men should do nothing."
But the first person to wrongly attribute the quote to Burke goes back to a 1920 speech by Sir Murray Hyslop at the 4th International Congregational Council in Boston on the "The Drink Problem."
You can find it on page 166 of the Volume of Proceedings of the Fourth International Congregational Council. Found at google books.
Jim Daly
President, Focus on the Family |
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